My father really instilled the importance of having a meal with the people you love, when I was little. I remember coming home from school, playing with my toys, doing homework, and getting cut off for dinner. "Jie! Dinner time! Jie! Chrr Fan!" (Forgive my terribly typed out Chinese.) Sometimes I would lag... Sometimes I would take my sweet time and I'd hear the call to come downstairs or come to the dinner table over and over and over again... I dreaded it for some reason. Our dinner table was right next to our living room, which had the TV, so I would see my siblings catching the newest music videos on MTV (when MTV actually played music videos), watching Wheel of Fortune, or Jeopardy, etc. But, I could see it in my dad, yes he would sometimes partake by watching the news, but mostly, it bothered him that we all kept quiet at the dinner table. I think he wanted a taste of what the typical American family experienced, the communication? Maybe he wanted what we saw on TV where the families would sit at the dinner table and talk about their days. I don't know... For us, we all would just sit there quietly and eat. But I always had this urge to get away. I just wanted to go play... Avoid conversation. It seemed wrong to talk about my feelings, about my day and share such vulnerable aspects of myself. That's how I felt about my family, and to be quite honest with you, I'm sad that I didn't get to know my father better... I think the dinner table was the perfect place to understand him. He was such a mystery...
So in my NYC adventures, I want to honor my dad when I go eat. I think I've rediscovered the art of food. To me, having a drink or having a meal with someone is so refreshing. There is something about conversations over a meal that creates such a warm and healthy environment. I've had so many debates and so many discussions over life... And it's all been surrounded by food. I love how you can share your enjoyment or your disdain over your meal with your food partner... I find humor in all that. So next time you have a meal with someone, enjoy it. It might be the only way you can connect with them. To me, it's the best way you can connect with them.
Also if you're ever bored, follow my instagram! My SN: caoboy331. I like to be the typical lame-head and capture my meal through photography. Maybe it'll inspire you... Who knows! Let me know what you think, about this blog, about my instagram, about your favorite restaurant spots! I'm always up for trying new things and hope that my story enriches your experiences. MUCH LOVE!